Work, love it or hate it, it dominates your life. I don’t know about you, but I spend Monday to Friday at work. But what happens when you don’t have any friends at work?
What do you do when you don’t have a group of friends to hang out with at work or when you don’t understand any inside jokes? This can feel pretty lonely, to say the least. I remember at my first workplaces in my healthcare role, I had no friends. I felt awkward all the time and I didn’t fit in. I just felt it was my fault and I thought I wasn’t very likeable. There were days when I didn’t want to go to work because I was sad that I didn’t have any friends. However, towards the end of the year, I changed how I perceived the situation and I even made a friend who I’d chat to all the time. It certainly gets better, and here are some tips to help you deal with it.
It’s Okay To Not Have Any Friends From Work
Firstly, it’s completely fine and normal to not have friends from work. You’re not strange or weird for not being best friends with your work colleagues. A lot of people are not friends with people from work and leave it at that. Please don’t think there’s anything wrong with you because of this.
I know how easy it is to make comparisons. This can happen in two different ways. You can either compare the people from work to your friends outside work. The problem with this is you can’t pick you your work colleagues like you can with your friends. Just like how all your friends can’t be the same, your work colleagues can never be like your friends.
Also, don’t compare yourself to other people at work. You may think the reason why you’re lonely at work is that you’re not at funny or pretty or exciting as so and so. This can send your mind into a downward spiral. These negative thoughts about yourself are simply not true. You can’t let other people or how many friends you have validate your worth, you are awesome! Always remember that!
One thing that worked for me was I changed my mindset. Before, I was constantly thinking I was different from people. I acted in a very closed way, I didn’t open up, and I didn’t get involved in anything. However, I had a placement for a month in a different sector. I stopped thinking I was different, and I tried with people I worked with there. I talked to the people I worked with at the placement by asking questions about them. This led to my colleagues being interested in me and what I had to say. When I went back to my original workplace, I incorporated this, and work became more bearable. Making a bit of effort with your colleagues can make things better. Or try and get involved in different things at work if you feel comfortable about it. Even if you’re not friends with your work colleagues, it’s nice to just have a chat about your interests with someone.
Hope this post helped someone out there!
Please comment below how you’ve made friends at work or how you deal with having no friends at work?
Have a wonderful day!